Something Old, Something New: Mother of the Bride Musings

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On a recent July morning I woke up to a beautiful balmy, sunny day. As I walked out onto my deck to greet the day I closed my eyes and stuck my nose up to take a sniff. A memory washed over me from 7 weeks ago when my eldest daughter, Sarah, said her ‘I do’s’ to her beloved. That day, too, had dawned warm and calm with blue skies. Frequently checking the forecast for weeks ahead of time was reassuring as only clear weather was on the way. Eventually I  stopped looking and kept focusing on how everything would be all right. The day truly was one of the most magical experiences of my life.

The event started over a year and a half ago when the future “hubs” (as Sarah calls him) popped the question in true romantic fashion, flowers, candles, the works. Venue shopping began soon afterward with visits to several popular local places. But after a tour of the grounds of Stone Manor Country Club in Middletown the decision was made. They set in motion one of the “most beautiful weddings I have ever been to in my life” events (quote from family friend). Every detail was mindfully chosen, using local vendors whenever possible.

Invitation and dress shopping came soon after with trips to TLC Bridal Boutique and The Organized Bride in Frederick. Officiant (Rev Bill Freeman) and Photographer (Nat Wongsaroj) seeking were next along with long hours purusing Pinterest for unique wedding ideas. The bridal showers began in Pittsburgh (groom’s hometown) to meet his large extended family. A few weeks later the bride’s family gathered to celebrate. Ordering of final items, boxes for the cookie table (a Pittsburgh tradition), galvanized pails for the table center pieces, chalkboards for guest information, lots of mason jars either from local stores or internet searches from the comfort of home.

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The weather forecasters got it right as the wedding week arrived with clear, blue skies and luscious weather. Our florist (Candlelight Florists) let us participate in arranging our own table settings. So bride, mother, mother in law, bridesmaids and friends gathered around a wooden table surrounded by pails of gorgeous flowers to begin to let our creative juices flow. Although we all used the same flowers each pail was unique and different. Loved seeing our handiwork on the reception tables. The “hubs” parents sponsored a lovely rehearsal dinner and happy hour (Brewers Alley) the night before the big day to launch the long awaited festivities. I had spent hours preparing a video (from my Mac computer) for Sarah & her beau to track their journey from childhood to this moment. I was able to display this gift from my heart to theirs during the evening.

The morning of the big day the bridal party met as scheduled at Structures salon in downtown Frederick for hair and makeup. We had lots of company since we were competing with First Saturday and The Frederick Arts Festival. All went without a hitch. A yummy pre-wedding lunch purchased from The Juice Plate nourished us as we waited our ”ride” a white limo to chariot us out to Middletown. Everything began to fall into place as the time came for the bridal party to get dressed and take a run through before the boys arrived.

Nothing but perfection from there as my husband and I walked our daughter into the next phase of her life journey. Tears, vows, pictures, eating (Carriage House Caterers) toasts, more pictures, dancing (Elan DJs), celebrating, cupcaking (Angelcakes), more dancing and picture taking (wedpics for uploading Iphone pics) until it was time to shut the doors on the evening, clean up and go home. I have read that ‘everyone renews their vows at a wedding’ and that rang true for me as I watched my husband dance with and toast to our first born and her now husband. Take some time this season of weddings and unions to ponder your own relationship vows, refresh ones that are stale and discard ones that are no longer useful.

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Water Lilies, Lotus Flowers & Dragonflies

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Last Sunday I took my first bike ride of the year with Washington Women Outdoors (WWO) to the Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens. WWO, the metro areas premiere  organization promoting outdoor activities for women will be celebrating its 35th birthday this year. This particular trip was a scouting event to try out a new route. When scouting, as I was repeatedly told, things don’t always go according to the schedule or map. We started from the Rosllyn Metro Station (Arlington, VA) and followed the Mt Vernon Bicycle Trail eventually crossing the 14th St Bridge. I don’t get to D.C. much so was like a kid in a candy store when we passed the usual tourist attractions like the Jefferson Memorial, The Capital Building and the Washington Monument. We made our way by the Washington Nationals Stadium to the Anacostia River Walk Trail (one of my favorite views) which went by the Washington Naval Yard. Lovely ride until we came to a section that was closed (remember this is a scouting trip) and had to back track and find a new route.

While the group paused to recalibrate directions a local biker fortuitously stopped and led us to the gardens. The destination made all the wrong turns & detours worth it. After taking lots of pictures and refueling with snacks & H2O, we headed back to D.C. The ride back seemed so much quicker, taking us through Historic Capital Hill where we stopped for lunch near the Eastern Market. A big thumbs up for the WWO and your spirit of exploration & adventure. Was great to be back with the group & great company. Thanks for the ride! For more information on WWO go to www.washingtonwomenoutdoors.org. Remember “all who wander are not lost” so meander a bit this summer, wander, wonder and enjoy the ride!

The Hormone Cure Detox: Afterthoughts

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So grateful for this wonderful map to good health created by Dr Sara Gottfried. Feeling lighter, leaner, cleaner, wiser (lost lbs & inches). On Day 22 noticed a change in wrinkles on my face – seemed to have faded and the scale & measurements began to shift! Surprised to discover caffeine to be main item I was cranky about not having when I wanted it but had no other cravings. I longed for my morning lattes but when reentry time came – could take it or leave it. Just proved the “takes 21 days to change a habit” theory. Have not introduced anything else and have grown fond of my dark chocolate, cocoa spice tea & Kombucha as a refreshing alternative to coffee or wine. My hubby thinks it stinks but I’m loving it and being able to tuck my shirt inside my pants! Will continue with my daily rituals and mindful eating habits and not beat myself up if I “choose” to indulge. I highly recommend this program to anyone wishing to make a shift in their health. Dr. Sara’s program is well researched and has tons of support & guidance. For more information just go to www.drsaragottfriedmd.com and take her free hormone survey. Her next group detox is in the Fall. In the meantime try your own elimination diet. Nutrition is a great place to begin a self inquiry on what you put on, in and around your body and how it can affect your mental, emotional and physical health. JJVirgin also has a great program to do on your own through the JJVirgin Diet or her cookbook. Happy cleansing and may good health be with you.

The Hormone Cure Detox: Day 20 “Let The Cleanse Begin”

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Completely off red meat, alcohol, sugar, caffeine, dairy, gluten and as of a few days ago, high glycemic fruits. For the next week I will be eating clean protein & lots of greens with the last thing to go, as many toxins as possible from makeup to household supplies to relationships. Feeling leaner, lighter & less stressed. Still missing my morning latte most of all but learning to let that pass. During the second week of the detox I was at a yoga retreat/training so not completely able to follow every detail of the diet but can’t complain as I had fresh food everyday and tons of vegetables from the huge garden on the property.

Even though I was following the rules to the best of my ability I did indulge a few times. Once to share a glass of Cabernet with my new found retreat friends on our last night together and second during our last lunch together when a big tray of brownies came out of the oven. Since these items had been removed from my diet for almost 2 weeks, I consciously chose to treat myself to these delicacies and savor the taste. This detox has taught me not only about healthy eating but many intangibles such as not depriving myself and how much more a food item is appreciated when not eaten all the time or without mindfulness. Mindless eating leads to loss of appreciation for what one consumes and a deadening of the senses, not really tasting what we eat. Feels wonderful to heal my liver, simplify my diet and pay more attention to what I put in, on & around my body.

The Hormone Cure Detox: Day 0

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The past year has been devoted to rehabilitating my physical body following knee and shoulder surgery in 2013. Since that work has been accomplished satisfactorily I want to take my healing deeper and to a new level. For the most part I follow a very healthy diet and have few toxicity symptoms or hormone imbalances. But after hearing a lecture last year by Dr. Sara Gottfried on how dis-regulated hormones can wreak havoc on our bodies and brains my curiosity was aroused. When the detox was announced, I just had to jump in and experience this first hand.

Have spent the past three weeks in prep mode, reading Dr. Sara’s articles on why caffeine, meat, sugar, gluten and dairy can disrupt our bodily systems, cause liver toxicity and lead to adrenal burn-out; taking quizzes about my hormones; and shopping for  lots of veges, clean proteins and good carbs. Tomorrow is literally “D” day, day 1 of the detox. For the first 3 days, no red meat and no alcohol! Not a big meat eater so that’s not a problem but will miss my occasional glass of vino! Will report back after day 3 with my discoveries and observations. After over 17 months of physical rehabilitation, exercise and mental discipline how hard can 4 weeks of this be? I say, Bring it!